Shopping for Lubricants is fun, but know what you are using!

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- Written by Dr. Joni and Esther

When you shop for lubricants, they may have hidden ingredients that are harmful: And why we endorse considering using organic products for your sexual pleasure!  Ingredients That Should Be Avoided include Paraben, DEA, Glycerin, Menthol and Aluminum Sulphate.


Parabens are a group of chemicals widely used as preservatives in the cosmetic and pharmaceutical industries. These compounds, and their salts, are used primarily for their bacteriocidal and fungicidal properties. They can be found in shampoos, commercial moisturizers, shaving gels, personal lubricants, topical/parenteral pharmaceuticals, spray tanning solution and toothpaste.
Previously published studies have shown that parabens are able to be absorbed through the skin and to bind to the body’s estrogen-receptors, where they can encourage breast cancer cell growth.  Parabens can mimic the hormone estrogen, which is known to play a role in the development of breast cancers. The preservatives are used in many cosmetics and some foods to increase their shelf life. A number of researchers and skin care experts have discovered that this preservative normally found in skin care products such as shampoos, moisturizers, shaving creams, and lotions can be toxic. It becomes even more dangerous the longer the person is exposed to it.
It can do the following:
  • Alter the estrogen processes among women, increasing the tendency of developing estrogen-dependent diseases like breast tumors
  • Heighten the existing allergic reactions experienced by the User
  •  Decrease the sperm cell count among males
  • Promote skin allergic reactions like contact dermatitis and Rosacea
  • Spur the development of skin cancer
  • Cause problems to fetal development for pregnant women
Products without parabens are considered less toxic. That said, some of the better paraben free products may contain the following:


Diethanolamine, a chemical that is used as a wetting agent in shampoos, lotions, creams and other cosmetics. DEA is used widely because it provides a rich lather in shampoos and keeps a favorable consistency in lotions and creams.  DEA by itself is not harmful but while sitting on the stores shelves or in your cabinet at home, DEA can react with other ingredients in the cosmetic formula to form an extremely potent carcinogen called nitrosodiethanolamine (NDEA). NDEA is readily absorbed through the skin and has been linked with stomach, esophagus, liver and bladder cancers. A safer and more natural choice is Cocamide DEA, or cocamide diethanolamine,
is a diethanolamide made by reacting fatty acids in coconut oils with diethanolamine.


Used for sweetening and preserving food, in the manufacture of cosmetics,  perfumes, inks, and certain glues and cements, as a solvent and automobile antifreeze, and in medicine in suppositories and skin emollients.
Glycerine in internal products has been linked to yeast infections.  Glycerin is a close relative of glucose, otherwise known as sugar. When used in small amounts, a woman who is not prone to yeast infections will most likely experience no problems with using a non-warming glycerin-based lubricant. However, if a woman is prone to yeast infections, inserting glycerin into the vagina gives the resident yeast extra food, bringing on another overgrowth of that yeast that results in itching and irritation. Also, glycerine in a lubricant, causes it to get sticky and tacky- which is no fun in the middle of sex!


The majority of menthol in personal products is synthetic. Synthetic menthol comes in the form of l-menthol crystals that are derived from the plant’s essential oil. Synthetic menthol can be irritating and drying to a woman’s clitoris and vagina.  A safe and natural choice is Mentha Pepperita, which is natural Japanese Peppermint Oil.


Also known as Alum and used in many tightening products and also for pickling. This compound has astringent properties which causes the vaginal tissues to dehydrate.
 There is concern that aluminum may cause toxicity in the long run. There is also some information linking products containing Alum to possibly contributing to Alzheimer’s disease.  A safe and natural choice is Capsicum, derived naturally from the pepper plant. This extract causes the vaginal walls to temporarily contract.
We have tried to pick the safest, most body friendly lubricants and stimulants at our store site, .  Most pharmacies carry lubricants today, so read the contents carefully!

About the Author

Dr. Joni and Esther

Dr. Joni Frater is a retired dentist and educator who specialized in working with patients to overcome their fears. She is now an author, speaker and radio host. Esther Lastique has spent her life as an educator and was chosen as one of Glamour Magazine’s Top Ten College Women for her commitment to activism. She joins Dr. Joni as co-host of their radio show Love Her Right. Together they founded, which features a sexy podcast radio show, a membership site, and a total relationship support system. The team has been featured on radio shows around the globe including Playboy XM Sirius Radio, sharing their message of revitalizing relationships by reigniting the passion within.